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Children are frequently collateral damage when parents split up or divorce. Children may believe that they caused their parents to separate and sometimes they feel that it is their responsibility to bring their parents back together. Some parents believe that they should stay in an unhappy relationship for the sake of their children. There is no denying that children experience divorce deeply and personally and the potential for long term consequences in the wellbeing of these children can be significant. However research has shown that the biggest factor in causing children pain is within parents’ control. Conflict causes children to feel very insecure and this can result in behavioural and emotional problems.
Regardless of whether parents live together or separately, conflict between parents has a detrimental effect on children’s mental health. Parents who handle divorce or separation calmly without conflict have the best chance of helping their children through this difficult time. Children from separated families whose parents portray a united front and who are respectful of each other help their children avoid the stress, insecurity and anxiety that can impact children for many years to come.
Family mediation helps parents discuss their children’s wellbeing and make decisions about their children’s future in a non-confrontational manner. Attending family mediation reduces conflict and helps resolve tensions and stress. It ensures that children are at the center of all discussions and helps prevent issues festering and escalating into major conflict.
